Dear Brides & Hostesses,
When it comes to weddings and events, I always recommend a client establish three non-negotiables. This allows me (and them) to focus the budget and design to realize the event desired. I’ve mentioned this idea (see here) as a key step when beginning wedding or event planning, but I’d like to delve a little deeper as to why this method works so well.
Establishing three “non-negotiables” keeps the event or wedding budget focused on what matters.
If your top three non-negotiables are not established, you’ll likely find that everything feels like it is a must and you will struggle to cover the costs for it all. By narrowing down your focus to what matters most, you can ensure you are not sacrificing something you really want your event to include because you felt you had to have it ALL. If the invitation design is simple, maybe you do not need the top calligrapher to craft them so that you can afford the band you wish to have play at the event.
Establishing three “non-negotiables” keeps the event or wedding planning focused on impact.
Even with an endless budget, not honing in on three important items can make an occasion seem overwhelming and underwhelming at the same time. How? Think of it this way. If everything at the event or wedding is over the top, then is anything over the top? What was truly special? Did any specific element stand out? Was there a climactic moment? A jaw-dropping backdrop? A statement piece? Or, was it all so “amazing” you and your guests cannot recall what, in fact, was most amazing? This can seem like a dream but may not be.
Do not get me wrong, I am all about the finer things, but elegance is often found in restraint and not in flamboyance. Sure, you could have both the top calligrapher create the invitation and the band and everything is to the nines, but something needs to be the focal point. If you are planning a wedding and can afford the best of the best, I guarantee your floral designer will still want to ensure that you have a few key statement pieces versus everything in abundance. Do you really want guests to only be able to tell the ceremony backdrop by the direction the chairs are facing? I think not. You’ll want that backdrop to be distinct from everything else.
Establishing three “non-negotiables” keeps the event and wedding classy.
Have you ever attended an affair in which the event seemed incohesive and chaotic? I have. It seems as if someone could not decide on what they loved most so they did it ALL and it proves to be very confusing for guests and lacks cohesion and class.
When you decide upon your three key non-negotiables, you set parameters for the event or wedding. You determine how everything else will tie together whether it be based on a color palette, style or location. An event that exudes solidity expresses intentionality and refinement. The event does not look rushed but carefully prepared and your guests will notice.
And there you have it! As you plan for your event, I hope you’ll consider this list a non-negotiable!